We’ve all adopted a strategy for survival and satisfaction (needs) that we deploy unconsciously most of the time.
These are what we react with (reactivity) react-ability, rather than consciously respond with (response-ability).
We don’t argue with others over feelings
The enneagram of personality patterns is tool to help us ID those patterns and to bring them into our conscious attention so that we can access more fully “the original essential state” which exists in nature.
In short knowing and noticing our “go to” pattern gives us the opportunity to become response-able in each moment, which can allow us to access many more scenarios for responses (what we could do) that can result in a more peaceful, full life.